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How To Create That "Spark!" (Must Watch For Men)

Kimberly Hill - Men's Dating & Relationship Coach

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In this episode, I'll be sharing insights into a common problem faced by divorced men in their 40s, 50s, and 60s: feeling disconnected from their inner spark and erotic identity. We'll discuss how routine, stress, and emotional disconnection during long-term marriages can shut down one's erotic system. More importantly, I'll guide you through methods to reawaken your internal erotic energy, reclaim your confidence, and build a life that naturally attracts excitement and chemistry.

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00:00 - Introduction: The Common Struggle of Divorced Men
01:55 - Understanding the Shift in Attraction
04:19 - Reconnecting with Your Erotic Identity
07:24 - Steps to Reawaken Your Body and Mind
13:04 - Building Confidence and Desirability
16:29 - Creating a Life That Attracts
20:12 - Conclusion: Embrace the Journey

20 Comments

@EngineeringChampion 10 months ago

I bought a porch chair. I sit on it and watch people and squirrels for hours with my phone away from me. It’s been so therapeutic and I recommend it to everyone.

@photoholic11 2 months ago

One of the things i noticed is how different men and women are with their support groups (friends). I was married for 20 years, and then dated a woman for 8 which recently ended. In both cases, My ex wife and also my ex gf had several or many girl friends to chat with and get support. They planned weekend getaways to Nashville etc, dinners together, social activities, game nights and basically celebrated a new beginning. It was the opposite for me, my guy friends didnt seem to care much. Yes, i had a beer with one, but guys dont talk much and things get uncomfortable when "feelings'" are mentioned. We are expected to just deal with it and be a tough guy and move on. Most days im fine being alone, but sometimes it sucks feeling lonely.

@tetheredsun950 2 months ago

The most useful advice I have heard for a long time, delivered in terms I can understand (I did not count ‘confidence‘ without further explanation amongst these, but here, palpable details are given). Thank you.

@cur244 9 months ago

After years of sexual rejection you just give up and slowly lose attraction. Time to move on to the next woman!

@BilliRook 8 months ago

I d add that living alone is important. Being able to look after yourself

@BRUCE_the_MOOSE_ 10 months ago

Once upon a time, in a land far far away, there lived a handsome prince. One day the prince asked the beautiful girl to marry him - and she said no. So the prince drove fast cars, drunk lots of beer, went fishing, stayed out late and had plenty of money to spend allll on himself.
And so the handsome prince lived happily ever after.
THE END.

@s.joseph-747 10 months ago

That whole part that had " Take up some damn space " was so cathartic, thank you Kim!. Love this channel, have a wonderful tomorrow and see ya next time.

@MatthewManke 8 months ago

My buddy told me I was a "catch" for women. I had self-doubt for sure, but now I realize after becoming the frog that got boiled, I am a catch. Financially fit, exercise every day, trail run, climb mountains, ski, do races, dress nice, dog dad, follow through, and get a haircut every 3 weeks. Women have been coming out of the woodwork to give me attention, I am not used to it. At first I didn't even notice the attention, I was oblivious. It was the death of a thousand cuts as you said. I've been seeing a woman now for about 3 months, who in my eyes, is a 12/10. The contrast of interacting with a beautiful woman who is nice, interested, appreciative, and caring makes me realize how much of a horrible situation I was in.

@jongusta 10 months ago

Good talking points. I think being “open” to the process of being with, engaging with someone new helps too. “Allowing” yourself to open yourself to others that you are attracted to physically and/or emotionally

@victorremdt8520 10 months ago

I totally relate. My erotic system is gone from me.

@richardtripodi7346 9 months ago

That was awesome. Thanks. You don’t know how awesome for me at this moment in time😊

@bell1095 9 months ago

Not being trapped in a narcistic partner, will protect sparks.

@douglasdavis8418 3 months ago

I'm 56. Never married and no kids. I've never known how to flirt (or spark interest in women). I think some guys just have it and some of us don't.

@NelsonGuedes 4 months ago

3:06 holy shit! Those differences are very similar to the differences between entrepreneurship and management!! 🤯

@Tristan-g6 2 months ago

Thank you Kimberly, I really needed to hear this today. I really appreciate it, and what you do. I hope you have a great day 🙂.

@Jürgen.Rohtmets 4 months ago

I did not learn anything new but still liked to hear this one while cleaning my bike chain. I just want to tell all the guys, try to get out ouf the comfort zone, push your selves. I know, it is hard. It is so sad, I see most of my colleagues living so softly, and unhealthy. They are mostly mid 30s.. bodies wasted with unhealthy lifestyles. Im thinking to myself , that a man needs his body for atleast 70 years or more! It will get so expensive to trying to fix the damage.. if it is possible. Dont mind me, I just want people to live and laugh and enjoy the little life we have here on earth.

@chrispap905 10 months ago

This could possibly be one of your best episodes, Miss Kimberly. Thank you Ma'am.

@adamvoorhies6042 4 months ago

This is some Solid advice!

@mongoose6685 3 months ago

This is a great video

@Lonstermash 10 months ago (edited)

I actually run into the exact opposite situation with most of my first dates, very few of which lead to second dates, and I probably go on about 50 first dates a year, IF I'm not in a relationship.

I'm 55, still looking and feeling much younger (that's me in the avatar), and I've been single much of my entire adult life, so it's not like I'm new to the dating scene. I was briefly married 20 years ago, I've had many relationships from 3 months to 2 years, and I've had quite a few flings and hook ups. So I do attract a lot of women on a regular basis, BUT, as I initially mentioned, most women don't have the "sparks" and "chemistry" for me!! 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️ I think this is due to women becoming overly picky the past 20 years vs how they were in the 90s, and my platonic female friends often agree with this theory.