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Be a good partner yourself first.

There is a book by J.D. Blake called “Don’t Die Alone: The Universal Guide to Spending Your Life with Someone” I HIGHLY recommend people read this book if your having relationships issues or looks for someone to spend your life with, it’s a game changer

A lot of heart broken people in these comments that seem to not have grown at all from the experience.
The unfortunate truth is that sometimes instead of learing the right things from a negotive experience isnt going to happen for everyone, atleast not the the first time. Hell i seen some people never learn after multiple times and give up, settle for loneliness even though they cant deal being alone.

We are our own best friends and worst enemy.
Face yourself and realize that there is more to you, and them.
If you love yourself then you will not need anothers love. Maybe youll want it but it will not define your existance.

Stay strong brothers  ✊

It took me 40 years to finally understand that external conflicts are nothing but your inner conflicts that reflect on the surface. It is only when you accept yourself, forgive yourself and love yourself litteraly that you can truly start accept forgive and love others.

Stop trying to find the perfect person and be the perfect person to attract

Real depressing comment section here... What he says do really matter. Yes he is from Hollywood, but he has also been married for 12 years(which is good for a Hollywood standard)so he is obviously doing something right and have experience.  He never mentioned looks or money, he mentioned important stuff.
Laughter, a shared moral compass and communication are the most important things to align on, and a willingness to change and improve.

Most people will ignore his advice because they either do not understand it or assume because he’s “Hollywood” (because, well everyone knows why we ignore Hollywood). Flip side, if some no name farmer in bum fk nowhere gave the same advice, people would listen. From experience, he’s more spot on than I’ve ever heard before.

I love this interview. I love what Matthew says about allowing each other some growing room. We aren’t meant to stay exactly the way we were when we first fell in love and got married. We are meant to keep growing, and our spouse is too. But we aren’t always going to grow in the same ways or directions. I’ve found this to be so true in my marriage of almost 31 years. It’s part of being human to make progress, and we need to allow that within our marriages even if it’s hard.

He is speaking facts. I had the one and ruined it because of fear.

Not me yelling "Tim Robbins!" into the void 😂

Spending quality time to really get to know each other and talk about anything and everything and develop an emotional attachment to what you like than nurture it It's about internal findings not external.  The same moral bottom line is truly the answer.

One of the biggest mistakes we make is only listening to people who think like us. I built an app called Standpoint AI to expose people to both sides of a situation.

You know what having been married nearly 20 years I agree with what he says.
You definitely have to give people room to grow.

And the best “Hollywood true love” scene is definitely Robin Williams in Good Will Hunting how he met his wife and how he loved her faults.

I am only half-way through when writing this and yet for this thing only, I like him more than I had before.

A lot of wisdom being given here that I've also heard from other couples that have been married for over 20 years.

This dude is awesome!

This is solid advice

dont fall in love too fast. dont choose the one because they are the easy option at the moment. dont love because you are desperate and you dont think you dont have enough time especially in your thirties. Men prime in their thirties not women. Keep these in mind

He’s from Hollywood but these are honestly good things to look for