Do you submit, fight, or retreat? When someone criticizes your proposal, before you even think about it, you've already reacted: you adapt, you counterattack, or you shut down. In this video, we see where these automatic reactions come from, why we always use the same one, and how to recognize yours.

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Five of you are deciding where to eat. You suggest a pizzeria, and someone says, "But no one goes there anymore."

They're not criticizing you. They're criticizing the pizzeria.

Yet something inside has already clicked, before any reasoning. And it always clicks the same way.

This is the first installment in a series of the column "Know Thyself and Expand Your Consciousness." I'm reading a psycho-spiritual text without revealing its author: what matters is what the message moves within you.

In this video, we look at:

→ Love, power, and serenity: three healthy qualities that, when used alone, become submission, aggression, and withdrawal
→ The example of the criticized proposal, and the three reactions that arise before listening
→ Why even "you decide, you're better" can be a counterattack
→ Four questions to recognize your automatic reaction
→ The movie your unconscious plays on you when you try to do things differently
→ Why "I'm made this way" is the phrase that keeps you stuck

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📍 CHAPTERS

00:00 — Intro
00:33 — The column's rule: I won't tell you who wrote it
01:54 — Reading: love, power, and serenity
05:06 — Three ways to react (and it's no longer acting)
05:54 — Someone criticizes your proposal: what do you do?
9:09 AM — When you feel threatened, what's your first reaction?
10:33 AM — Do you do it because it's necessary or because you always do it?
11:38 AM — What do you fear would happen if you didn't do it?
2:43 PM — "I'm made this way": the question of questions
4:00 PM — Press the button and spin: like a washing machine
5:59 PM — Same vote, different reactions
7:02 PM — The circle closes
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🎯 NEXT STEP

The four questions in the video work if you write them down. Pause the video on each one and answer, even with just one line. Don't think about the third: watch the film that comes to mind.

If you want to do this work with others, there's Ricomincio da Me: we meet live on Zoom three times a month with me, plus a meeting with the facilitators, as part of a growth program.

👉 https://relazioniamoci.it/pages/rdm-c...

The second episode of the series comes out in a week: what happens when your solution doesn't work.

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📚 MORE INFORMATION

▪ Do you always make the same mistakes? Here's why it happens (part one): Ripeti sempre gli stessi errori? Ecco perc...
▪ How the ego creates fear and suffering (part one): Come l'ego crea PAURA e SOFFERENZA. Scopri...

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👋 WHO I AM

I'm Antonio Quaglietta, a psychologist. I've been working in relationships, training, and consulting for twenty-five years.

🌐 Website: https://relazioniamoci.it
📷 Instagram: @antonio_quaglietta_psicologo

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