The 6 Dangerous People Psychology Says You Must Avoid
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The 6 Dangerous People Psychology Says You Must Avoid
In this video we break down six of these people and the research behind each one: the common-enemy friend (Jennifer Bosson), the spiral partner (Amanda Rose's work on co-rumination), the warm underminer (Michelle Duffy), the permanent victim (Rahav Gabay and Arie Nadler), the anchor (the Michelangelo phenomenon from Stephen Drigotas and Caryl Rusbult), and the quiet scorekeeper (Abraham Tesser and Jonathan Smith). You'll also get three practical principles for protecting yourself without turning cold, and a rip current image that changes how you see all of it.
Which of the six did you recognize first? And if you're brave enough, which one have you been? Tell me in the comments. I read them.
#psychology #toxicpeople #relationships #friendship #psychtoons #selfimprovement
Research referenced:
Holt-Lunstad, J., Uchino, B. N., Smith, T. W., Olson-Cerny, C., & Nealey-Moore, J. B. (2003). Social relationships and ambulatory blood pressure: Structural and qualitative predictors of cardiovascular function during everyday social interactions. Health Psychology, 22(4), 388-397.
Holt-Lunstad, J., Uchino, B. N., Smith, T. W., & Hicks, A. (2007). On the importance of relationship quality: The impact of ambivalence in friendships on cardiovascular functioning. Annals of Behavioral Medicine, 33(3), 278-290.
Bosson, J. K., Johnson, A. B., Niederhoffer, K., & Swann, W. B. (2006). Interpersonal chemistry through negativity: Bonding by sharing negative attitudes about others. Personal Relationships, 13(2), 135-150.
Rose, A. J. (2002). Co-rumination in the friendships of girls and boys. Child Development, 73(6), 1830-1843.
Duffy, M. K., Ganster, D. C., & Pagon, M. (2002). Social undermining in the workplace. Academy of Management Journal, 45(2), 331-351.
Gabay, R., Hameiri, B., Rubel-Lifschitz, T., & Nadler, A. (2020). The tendency for interpersonal victimhood: The personality construct and its consequences. Personality and Individual Differences, 165, 110134.
Drigotas, S. M., Rusbult, C. E., Wieselquist, J., & Whitton, S. W. (1999). Close partner as sculptor of the ideal self: Behavioral affirmation and the Michelangelo phenomenon. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 77(2), 293-323.
Tesser, A., & Smith, J. (1980). Some effects of task relevance and friendship on helping: You don't always help the one you like. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 16(6), 582-590.
Emerson, R. W. (1841). Friendship. In Essays: First Series.
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Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute professional psychological or medical advice. If you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out to a licensed therapist or mental health professional.
20 Comments
Recognized first: #5 (The Anchor). People who love who you were 5 years ago because your growth threatens the dynamic.
Guilty of being: #6 (The Quiet Scorekeeper). Receiving a friend's big win a little too quietly because it poked an insecurity in my own field.
Admitting that this isn't just about spotting "bad people," but recognizing the shadow in ourselves, made this video 10x more powerful.
Realizing that the people who cause our blood pressure to spike aren't the overt enemies, but the ones who are "helpful and hurtful in the same sentence" was terrifying.
How many of us are exhausted because we stay half-open and half-braced around someone we love?
The 6 Dangerous People Psychology Says You Must Avoid
PsychToons
15,355 views
The 6 Dangerous People Psychology Says You Must Avoid
In this video we break down six of these people and the research behind each one: the common-enemy friend (Jennifer Bosson), the spiral partner (Amanda Rose's work on co-rumination), the warm underminer (Michelle Duffy), the permanent victim (Rahav Gabay and Arie Nadler), the anchor (the Michelangelo phenomenon from Stephen Drigotas and Caryl Rusbult), and the quiet scorekeeper (Abraham Tesser and Jonathan Smith). You'll also get three practical principles for protecting yourself without turning cold, and a rip current image that changes how you see all of it.
Which of the six did you recognize first? And if you're brave enough, which one have you been? Tell me in the comments. I read them.
#psychology #toxicpeople #relationships #friendship #psychtoons #selfimprovement
Research referenced:
Holt-Lunstad, J., Uchino, B. N., Smith, T. W., Olson-Cerny, C., & Nealey-Moore, J. B. (2003). Social relationships and ambulatory blood pressure: Structural and qualitative predictors of cardiovascular function during everyday social interactions. Health Psychology, 22(4), 388-397.
Holt-Lunstad, J., Uchino, B. N., Smith, T. W., & Hicks, A. (2007). On the importance of relationship quality: The impact of ambivalence in friendships on cardiovascular functioning. Annals of Behavioral Medicine, 33(3), 278-290.
Bosson, J. K., Johnson, A. B., Niederhoffer, K., & Swann, W. B. (2006). Interpersonal chemistry through negativity: Bonding by sharing negative attitudes about others. Personal Relationships, 13(2), 135-150.
Rose, A. J. (2002). Co-rumination in the friendships of girls and boys. Child Development, 73(6), 1830-1843.
Duffy, M. K., Ganster, D. C., & Pagon, M. (2002). Social undermining in the workplace. Academy of Management Journal, 45(2), 331-351.
Gabay, R., Hameiri, B., Rubel-Lifschitz, T., & Nadler, A. (2020). The tendency for interpersonal victimhood: The personality construct and its consequences. Personality and Individual Differences, 165, 110134.
Drigotas, S. M., Rusbult, C. E., Wieselquist, J., & Whitton, S. W. (1999). Close partner as sculptor of the ideal self: Behavioral affirmation and the Michelangelo phenomenon. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 77(2), 293-323.
Tesser, A., & Smith, J. (1980). Some effects of task relevance and friendship on helping: You don't always help the one you like. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 16(6), 582-590.
Emerson, R. W. (1841). Friendship. In Essays: First Series.
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Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute professional psychological or medical advice. If you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out to a licensed therapist or mental health professional.