I cannot thank you enough - after all the books and classes and courses these 2 series are the quintessence of everything I needed to know and become aware

Glad this is here on YT!! This series has been a game changer

I am incredibly grateful that you would make this available for everyone to see.  Thank you.

these videos are loaded with so much wisdom and heart... such heavy stuff but so helpful

Did you ever look at something you have scrubbed before, use it because it looked clean then looked at it in a good light and realized that it had a lot of residue in the crevices that you had never seen before? Entering my first year after retiring from the workforce, I felt I finally had time to spend journaling, and watching YouTubes to recover from my past. It worked. I felt good.
Now, halfway into my second year, I started listening to John Bradshaw's YouTubes. I feel like he is helping me identify the debris in the crevices that I had not even thought to address. He gets down deep and I like it.

Informative and timeless.  Awareness keeps unfolding.  Blessings to John Bradshaw and Terry Kellogg.

So grateful for this serious, this is gold❤❤❤

I adore John Bradshaw and Terry.  God bless you

Thank you, John. You're helping me to change my life.

So validating and powerful.

awesome

Most are distracted every day, hour, minute and second.  Trying to get their emotional needs met...

***34:40 Terry Kellog

40:15 😂

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Most people choose a negative or positive perspective in life.  Because they are ignoring reality.

14:11 Functionality. What a functional person is.

18:01 Instead of "honor thy mother and father", what about "unless you become like little children, you shall not enter the kingdom." A child honors their parent by expressing anger. That shows that you have sired a human being and not a vegetable.

21:25 The Crisis of the family is not telling the truth. It's the lies. In order to get well is to get out of that. To embrace the feelings. Working out that shame.

32:34 Example of people in religion who use groups as codependency.

34:40 The Recovery Part of this video. Recovery is a process, not an event. Guilt is the veneer of codependency. Shame empowers addiction.

The 2 parts of recovery:
1) Grief process.
2) Forgiveness (it works on phases)

41:29
Phase #1.Recognize that there was wrong done to us.
Phase #2.Recognize that we had feelings about the problem. (Just recognizing them, not feeling them yet.)

47:32 Phase #3.Embracing
the feelings. Making them as big as they are. When we do this, we are embracing ourselves.

49:09 Phase #4. Learning to share out feelings with others. (Examples: imagining it, role playing) Writing is just a clarification. It is not really  dealing with the feeling itself.

51:29 Phase #5. Make a decision on what I'm going to do with the relationship.

53:24 Phase #6. Sense of acceptance and serenity about the hurt and about the relationship.

I have people ask me if I  don't believe in God.  What do I believe in?  I say myself.  I am the only one that can effect change in my reality.

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted - Matthew 5:4

The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,
Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,
Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.
- Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam

It was inappropriate for him to spend time talking alot about AA 12 steps.. in the twelve traditions it says "Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films."

That said, thank you for this excellent series of lectures.

Actually a Shame Based Childhood has existed since man has been on the Planet.  It will never go away due to the fact that it's part of every Culture.