This content is reshaping lives for the better. Bless

I’ve 100% been fawning my whole life. I’m ready for your videos about the recovery journey.

In my family dad would say,"whatever you do, just don't upset your mum!"

My culture cultivates fawning 😢

Even as a young child I was so immune to notions like "respect your elders" and I think it was because I saw the dads disrespecting and humiliating the moms constantly.

Culture tends to praise compliance more than authenticity.

I've been the fawner and I've been the fawnee.  Heck, I've even been both at the same time!!  Never realized it at the time of course, even if I distinctly remember hearing my partner use the term "fawning"...  I just couldn't ever grasp the scope of it. I was drowning back then. Now, years later with help from people like you, Tim, I finally see it. Fawning wreaks havoc on the self and is therefore antithetical to healthy relationships. There is no healthy relationship without healthy participants.

But hey, at least these days I can usually see it happening!! Admittedly not often catching it in the moment, usually afterward... but, skills and perspectives are gradually growing. We heal one day at a time, eh? If only it didn't have to be so slow. It's tragic, as so many of us have no doubt felt first-hand...

But then again, I suppose it'd be far more tragic to live in a world where healing is impossible rather than merely slow, right?  Guess we'll take that small victory and keep on walking, one step at a time.

Wishing strength and compassion to all who see this. I believe in you, even if I haven't met you yet. You're worth more than you realize, and you ARE more than you realize. Be well.

these are so insanely thorough

i’m extremely grateful for these videos

you capture the beauty and dignity of humans so beautifully 🙌🏽🙌🏽

This series pretty much explained my whole life to me in a way that makes sense. Always being on edge and waiting for the pin to drop. Always having to make sure everyone is alright and happy and hoping that once they are, maybe, just maybe, they might think about me and care. Despite all the sadness that comes with knowing, I find it helpful to know that other people experience this too.
Thank you Tim and the team for this series. I have been following your channel for a long time now and I was hoping for more information on this topic. So thank you.

This series has been hard, for me, to listen to. The information was good. Thank you.

For sure, I always look like I have it together, but I'm usually falling apart 😮

Thanks! Doing this set me up for being taken advantage of by others. Then i would blow up on them and become avoidant. Not a healthy way to live!

It’s hard for me to be fake once I’ve realized what I do is fake. Sometimes what I believed was “authentic Self” was actually fake. Brutal realization.

I love this. Culture, society and/or politics should always be factored in when we talk about trauma (responses).

I  really appreciate this broader yet profound explanation. It describes my background culture & nation history.

I tried to stop fawning to heal my body from 40 years of trauma because it completely wrecked my health, and oh boy it ended up triggering people around me so much so I had to isolate from neighbors and collegues. I really don't know how to exist in the same environment that made me sick in the first place. Time to pack up and leave. Thank you for your videos I have been binging them the past couple of months and they are helping sort through things  🙏

It's so hard to stop fawning, it feels like going against yourself and that you are self-attacking... Emotions usually trumps logic, that's why we fawn... Interestingly, on days where I feel emotionally numb or tuned out, I usually don't fawn. Or should I say, I fawn LESS!

So many people think that those   “ who would give you the shirt off their back” is a good thing. When it’s not.

13:37 My goodness this is helpful.  Growing up in the Jehovah's Witness organization, fawning after a relationship with a whole community who rejected me after I rejected the religion has left me emotionally exhausted.  Yet  "Returning to Jehovah" has never been an option and this helped me understand why even more.💕

Crazy no wonder we're so screwed up!!!!! Lie lie lie pretend to be nice!!!'