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Choosing yourself deeply is not about becoming so impressive that other people have no choice but to notice you. That is still the ego looking outward for confirmation. Real self-choice begins when your sense of worth stops depending on whether someone sees you, approves of you, chooses you, or understands you. You stop abandoning yourself just to remain acceptable to someone else.

The ego constantly asks, “What do I need to become so they will finally value me?” Pure awareness asks something completely different: “Why am I making another person’s perception responsible for my sense of self?” Thoughts about rejection, comparison, and inadequacy are experiences appearing within consciousness. They can be observed without becoming the identity you live from.

Choosing yourself can look very ordinary. It can mean respecting your boundaries, leaving situations that repeatedly diminish you, pursuing what genuinely matters to you, resting when you need to rest, and refusing to perform a version of yourself just to receive approval. It does not mean believing you are better than anyone else. It means recognizing that you do not have to betray yourself in order to be loved.

And ironically, when you stop trying to be noticed, your presence can become more natural and grounded. You are no longer constantly calculating how you are being perceived. You speak because you have something genuine to say. You create because something wants to be created. You move toward what feels meaningful without needing everyone to validate the direction. There is a different kind of strength in someone who is no longer begging the world to confirm their existence.

At the deepest level, choosing yourself means recognizing what “yourself” actually is. The personality is constantly changing, but pure awareness remains present through every version of you. The more deeply you rest in that awareness, the less you need to compete for attention or prove your worth. You do not become worthy because they finally notice you. You become free when you realize you were never dependent on being noticed in the first place.

Yeah chasing someone’s validation for them to accept you and then seeing how you abandoned your own self, once you see it for what it is you have to accept and grief and then commit to not leaving yourself ever again ❤ let’s all promise to ourselves to have our own back and not abandon ourselves to get someone to like us. ❤❤❤

..this week I been actively allowing others to sit with tension. Its been different but empowering to know I am no longer responsible for other people's reactions and emotions.❤❤❤

Wow! You described me. Abandoned myself throughout my life just to be the people pleaser and I end up the used, rejected, miserable one.

Choosing yourself deeply isn’t about becoming cold or unrecognizable to everyone else. It’s about becoming more grounded in who you are—setting boundaries, trusting your decisions, letting go of what drains you, and building a life that reflects your values.

Choose to love yourself! I lovd myself unconditionally and i hope everyone here is learning to love and accept themselves completely

Aaron thank you for expressing your vulnerability and also I’ve always been impressed with how similar we are with our issues and childhood traumas and healing and revelations and anger that you shared today. We are all so connected and so different yet so the same.

This hit a nerve with me. I am a people pleaser and I have gotten better but I still feel guilty about not being a people pleaser. I dont want a relationship because i have had to manage people's emotions and be the peace keeper. And it is so exhausting that I cannot comprehend a relationship. I am working on choosing myself and trying to be more vulnerable and choosing authencity.

Thank you Aaron. If you are not already you will make a great dad some day❤

🤏 CLIOCK ITTTTT 😂❤❤❤. We are evolving, baby.

I so love Aaron’s content, it hits the nail on the head.  I am literally practicing this and it feels so easy, peaceful, authentic!  Thank you for your content

When I am around my grandchildren, I am probably the closest to being me around people besides being alone

Getting back to yourself. Going within. Remembering. Collapsing. Beautiful.

" Embrace being bad- got it. Thank you!"🙏😻💞

I really needed this, God bless you!!

I just recently heard about Carl Jung, now Im reading a book called: Reclaiming the inner child with essays from all the top psychologists of our time. Thank you bro this helped me out a lot

Aaron we’ve been clocking it in the black community! Welcome!!

I generally think they feel it. Been doing alot of energy work lately, pulling my energy back to me and after MONTHS of silence, my ex reached out, snd even then I gave him nothing to latch onto.

I hope that lady sees this. 😂❤ so much joy in something so silly.