Deja de sufrir por un evitativo, el cierre definitivo
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Stop suffering from avoidance, the final closure
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"At what point did your relationship become a police investigation instead of a refuge?" 🕵️♂️💔
After seven chapters analyzing the avoidant mind, today we conclude this special series on PROYECTO EN BLANCO by focusing on what hurts the most: the emotional system of the person with anxious attachment.
In this final video (8 of 8), Marian and Sebas explore why we become "micro-signal detectives," why we obsess over "solving" the other person to avoid facing our own emptiness, and how to differentiate whether we are maturing or simply resigning ourselves to a relationship that drains us. It's time to stop looking for answers outside and find peace within.
In this episode, we talk about:
The biggest mistake of the anxious person: understanding or justifying?
The addiction to trying to "fix" the avoidant person.
Why you know their limits better than your own.
The fear of loneliness and loss of identity.
Peace or lack of intimacy? The great confusion.
Thank you for joining us on this 8-episode journey. If you found it helpful, don't forget to subscribe and share it with someone who needs to find their center again.
EPISODES:
00:00 Introduction: The end of the series on the avoidant mind
00:53 Reconnect: The importance of emotional practice
03:13 What is the biggest mistake of the anxious person when trying to understand the avoidant person? 05:37 The danger of information overload
06:56 The false sense of control and the savior syndrome
09:15 Do you know the avoidant person better than you know yourself?
12:01 The fear of loneliness vs. being with yourself
15:02 The inner emptiness and lack of self-love
19:12 How to differentiate between maturing and resigning yourself
21:12 Detoxifying the nervous system and relapses
26:01 Why does the avoidant person get scared when everything is going well?
29:50 Peace vs. lack of intimacy: The avoidant person's dilemma
32:05 Who is more selfish: the anxious or the avoidant person?
34:43 Anecdotes and closing: A touch of humor in the kitchen
Understanding the avoidant mind is key to stop walking on unstable ground. Learn to identify the warning signs in your relationship.
This final episode concludes our series on the avoidant mind, exploring why trying to build a strong bond with someone who's pulling away feels like building on shifting sands. If you find yourself constantly analyzing every unanswered message or interpreting subtle changes in your partner's tone, this analysis is for you.
Subscribe to receive new analyses on psychology and relationships every week, and let me know in the comments: what attachment style topic would you like us to cover in the next video?
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Estuve con un evitativo, me he tirado solo años y estoy muy a gusto solo, pero cuando tengo pareja y me enamoro (sin enamorarme no me pasa) y la quiero a tope, es de cajón que si se pone fría conmigo me hará mucho daño porque me abro a esa persona emocionalmente. Ni que decir un apego evitativo que sea infiel como mecanismo para alejarse del ansioso, eso es una falta de respeto que te da depresión durante meses y años, no es porque sea ansioso.
Creo es normal tener novia y querer estar con ella mucho mucho, no es porque seas ansioso, te puede gustar desconectar de tu pareja 2 días pero luego quieres volver a verla y quererla y abrazarla y todo. Si está rara-fría te hace polvo, eso de que el ansioso sufre... Creo debes, no ser evitativo si no ser insensible y un burro para ponerte frío con la persona que quieres. O esta gente que no hace ni caso a su pareja y está siempre con sus hobbys. Ya puedes ser todo lo apego sano del mundo que no es normal, te hará daño que tu novia esté así. Si no es que no sois novios, sois dos conocidos que conviven juntos y se dan igual. Al final el evitativo tiene un bloqueo emocional enorme de infancia.
A ver si ahora una persona cariñosa va a ser catalogada como apego ansioso que debe trabajarse.
Luego ya descubrí que tenía apego evitativo y encajó todo.
Ójala hubiese sabido que era apego evitativo durante la relación, hubiese enfocado los problemas de otra manera.
Yo vi que me salpicaba y tuve que salir corriendo, una cosa es que yo la quisiera ayudar y otra que me salpique a mi y me trate mal faltándome al respeto.
Deja de sufrir por un evitativo, el cierre definitivo
PROYECTO EN BLANCO
20,215 views
Stop suffering from avoidance, the final closure
🍒 CHALLENGE 12 FOR COUPLES at their limit:🔗 https://web.proyectoenblanco.com/land...
👨🏻🦱👩🏻 IF YOU NEED A SESSION WITH MARIAN AND SEBAS:👉 You can check availability and schedule your session here:👇🔗
https://proyectoenblanco.my.canva.site
🌿 DO YOU WANT TO JOIN RECONNECT? Here we explain EVERYTHING:🔗 https://web.proyectoenblanco.com/proy...
Channel with our daughter Malena:
@proyectoenblancopadreehija
"At what point did your relationship become a police investigation instead of a refuge?" 🕵️♂️💔
After seven chapters analyzing the avoidant mind, today we conclude this special series on PROYECTO EN BLANCO by focusing on what hurts the most: the emotional system of the person with anxious attachment.
In this final video (8 of 8), Marian and Sebas explore why we become "micro-signal detectives," why we obsess over "solving" the other person to avoid facing our own emptiness, and how to differentiate whether we are maturing or simply resigning ourselves to a relationship that drains us. It's time to stop looking for answers outside and find peace within.
In this episode, we talk about:
The biggest mistake of the anxious person: understanding or justifying?
The addiction to trying to "fix" the avoidant person.
Why you know their limits better than your own.
The fear of loneliness and loss of identity.
Peace or lack of intimacy? The great confusion.
Thank you for joining us on this 8-episode journey. If you found it helpful, don't forget to subscribe and share it with someone who needs to find their center again.
EPISODES:
00:00 Introduction: The end of the series on the avoidant mind
00:53 Reconnect: The importance of emotional practice
03:13 What is the biggest mistake of the anxious person when trying to understand the avoidant person? 05:37 The danger of information overload
06:56 The false sense of control and the savior syndrome
09:15 Do you know the avoidant person better than you know yourself?
12:01 The fear of loneliness vs. being with yourself
15:02 The inner emptiness and lack of self-love
19:12 How to differentiate between maturing and resigning yourself
21:12 Detoxifying the nervous system and relapses
26:01 Why does the avoidant person get scared when everything is going well?
29:50 Peace vs. lack of intimacy: The avoidant person's dilemma
32:05 Who is more selfish: the anxious or the avoidant person?
34:43 Anecdotes and closing: A touch of humor in the kitchen
Understanding the avoidant mind is key to stop walking on unstable ground. Learn to identify the warning signs in your relationship.
This final episode concludes our series on the avoidant mind, exploring why trying to build a strong bond with someone who's pulling away feels like building on shifting sands. If you find yourself constantly analyzing every unanswered message or interpreting subtle changes in your partner's tone, this analysis is for you.
Subscribe to receive new analyses on psychology and relationships every week, and let me know in the comments: what attachment style topic would you like us to cover in the next video?
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