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POV: When You Realize You and Your Friend Are No Longer COMPATIBLE

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Navigating friendships as an adult is tough.
Between busy schedules, changing priorities, and life transitions, it often feels like we’re losing the deep connections we once had. In this episode, we explore the struggles of maintaining meaningful friendships in adulthood and how vulnerability plays a role in fostering male and female friendships.
What things end friendships? Is it money, having feelings for them, or do we just outgrow them and move on?

00:00:00 | POV S01E09 Highlights
00:05:14 | Friends Who Challenge You vs Friends Who Support What Do You Look for in a Friend?
00:17:39 | Cutting Off Friends
00:23:42 | Bro Friendships not being Comfortable being Vulnerable
00:31:16 | Why Backstabbing Happens in Girl Friendships?
00:32:28 | Are You Open to Giving Second Chances in Friendships?
00:35:09 | When Do You Cut Off People?
00:39:33 | Maintaining Friendships: Do Stuff Together
00:41:46 | Finding Friends in Hobbies
00:46:11 | How Long Does It Take to Establish Friendship?
00:48:12 | How Money Destroys Friendship?
00:54:12 | Difference between Friends and Acquaintances
00:59:48 | Friendships with the Opposite Sex
01:00:38 | Is Having a Boy Best Friend or Girl Best Friend Okay?
01:06:03 | Friendship Turning to Romantic Relationship
01:08:19 | Dating Your Friend’s Ex
01:12:33 | Friends Who Flirt With Your Partner
01:14:49 | Friends vs Romantic Partners
01:17:13 | To Tell or Not to Tell Relationship Problems with Friends

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20 Comments

@julieorozco6915 1 year ago

I cut friends when they gossip because if they gossip to you, they can gossip about you. so avoid then hit cancel.

@criscreatess 1 year ago

but it's also important to note that cutting people off for peace, is different from running away from taking in accountability (as someone who just found out my "friend" who had utang on me, hid his stories on me)

@thinkswonwoo3164 1 year ago (edited)

as a guy who grew up with more women around me, I never find it comfortable hanging out with guys who tends to objectify women, or men who's a bit unruly, so I've had more girl friends than I had guy friends. But I agree with Atty. na guys tend to talk more about their interests, but it's a case to case basis. and one point is that it's more enriching to have girl and gay friends because you get to receive the more mature talks with them because they have no filters and has nothing to prove, unlike men who tend to show off their masculinity with other men.

@nim_ignooy_dtsuga7346 1 year ago

I used to be that person who reaches out. I used to be that person who bridges people. I used to be that person who always wanted to talk things out. I used to be that person who patches things first before others. I used to be that person who sets up gatherings. I used to be that person who always wanted to be with my friends and be there for them. Yes, I used to be that person who prioritizes others.

But sometimes, things happen and people change. Even me. Experiences taught me important lessons in life. I no longer feel the need to always be that person. When people no longer value and see you as someone like they used to see you before, the best way to respond is to just stop. When people no longer care, it’s okay to stop caring for them. It’s okay to stop reaching out and just be within your space. It’s okay to not bridge anymore especially when people no longer wanted to cross it. It’s okay to be silent when people no longer want to talk it out. It’s okay to stop patching things up when people have already decided not to. It’s okay to prioritize yourself before others. Yes, It’s okay to end friendships.

As we navigate life's stormy seas, we all deserve the peace we need. And if ending some friendships helps, then be it.

@hayleycrizzelle4629 1 year ago

You are the average of the people you hang out with. :hand-orange-covering-eyes: If you want to change your life, you've gotta change who you're spending your time with. :face-orange-biting-nails:

@myrroooo 1 year ago

It's weird how this podcast episode showed up to me TODAY of all days when I've been questioning what I feel regarding my friendship with some of my best friends. They've been draining the hell out of me, but I keep disregarding my own feelings kasi I am that kind of person who'd be understanding to the point na I'd ignore the feeling na ako na yung nagiging dehado for being there for them all the time.

This has been an eye-opener for me.

@flomellasac6974 1 year ago

If a friend is backstabbing others to you but very sweet in front of them... I think she can do the same to you.

@komisadventure6714 1 year ago (edited)

As a 36 year old, I stayed away to a lot of things I like because I need to work and be “an adult” but it makes me depressed and confused. But when I relearned to love my passion and hobbies like Inka, like watching anime and reading, it feels more like me and younger, I didn’t fully enjoy my teens but I am happier now.

@zangchua 1 year ago (edited)

pag nakikinig ako sa kanila, feeling ko nakiki tropa lang din ako... 😅 and Im actually thinking A LOT about friendships lately. I NEEDED this today ❤

@overtainty 8 months ago (edited)

This was my very first episode in this podcast, now I finished nearly all of it. I’m a teenager, that will turn 17 in a few days. I struggled a lot with mental health, depression, anxiety, socialization and trauma. My health declined when I transferred into a new school, so I stopped attending school because I was really scared of what people will think about me. I wasted my teenage and childhood years and I’m scared to become an adult when I’m stuck in this rotation and nothings new. Nothing special in my life, I can’t even show my talents, my opportunities and ideas. It’s like I’m just hidden.
I clicked this exact video out of boredom while cleaning the house, and unexpectedly, you guys became the lifesavers of my life. These people in this podcast showed a lot of reassurance and motivation, as if I really aspire to become one of you guys in future when I get to be an adult. Not going to lie, I can’t wait to be an adult to meet cool people like you! When I need something positive, the first thing I do is click this podcast.
I’m just bummed the same time that you guys stopped uploading. I’m hoping to hear another episode from you guys again ❤ Thank you Atty Anselmo, Inka, and Aryn.

@denisesantillan1492 1 year ago

23:00 there's a reason talaga why people don't like someone. I've learned this the hard way. Notice how they talk about people who don't like them, they can do that to you as well

@royangeloperez8045 1 year ago

guys you need to be on spotify 😢😢😢😢 deserve ma-add sa playlist huhu

@MishkaSortida 9 months ago

Statement heard:
The speaker talks about the moment of realization that even if you still care about a friend, your values, priorities, or growth paths no longer align—and that staying close can start to feel draining instead of supportive.
Tone of the speaker:
Reflective, honest, and emotionally mature. There is a calm but slightly heavy tone, showing acceptance rather than anger.
Meaning of the statement:
The statement means that friendships can change over time. As people grow, their needs, beliefs, and lifestyles may shift, and sometimes this leads to incompatibility—even without conflict or betrayal.
Lesson learned from listening carefully:
Not all friendships are meant to last forever, and outgrowing someone does not make you a bad person. It’s okay to choose peace, personal growth, and emotional health, even if that means letting go of a friendship that no longer fits who you are becoming.
#schoolpurposesonly

@tishamissytekiko943 1 year ago

I had friends back in high school who ended up backstabbing me. I felt so betrayed, like they all ganged up on me.

The story goes like this: I was the "good girl." I didn’t want to cut classes because I was scared of failing, and I took my studies seriously. My parents invested their time, effort, and money for me to go to school, and I didn’t want to disappoint them by rebelling, especially since they were already stressed with my other siblings.

Meanwhile, my friends would often say things like, "Let’s skip class later," or "Let’s hang out somewhere else." I never joined them in those activities. Despite that, whenever they missed anything—assignments, projects, or pointers for exams—I would always help them. I’d let them copy my work and even teach them.

One day, one of our classmates passed away. We all went to the wake, feeling sad and reflective. Out of nowhere, they decided to have an "open forum." I thought it would be a time for us to bond and express our thoughts, but I never expected it to turn against me.

They started saying things like I was "too competitive," a "killjoy," and that I was a "teacher’s pet." I was blindsided because I thought we were all good—I thought we were best friends.

People often say high school is the best time of your life, but for me, it wasn’t. Imagine experiencing this at just 14 years old—the trauma stays with you.

@박지.훈 1 year ago

bring these 3 back plsssss

@christianparagas8562 1 year ago (edited)

It's true that as you grow older, mas lumiliit 'yung friend circles mo. Mas natututo ka nang kumilatis ng kaibigan with your experience with people. Loved this one.

@wraightking464 1 year ago

Absolutely, you don't have to give up your hobbies entirely; prioritize time management to reconnect with yourself. If you neglect your hobbies and focus solely on work, you'll eventually lose touch with who you are.

@BUDODOF 1 year ago

I love how atty is discovering new things with this new found group, he is open and know how to set limits. He reminded me of one of my friend he’s straight his best friend is his girlfriend and its hard for him to make new friends too so I hear where he’s coming from.

@joshuajuelar5243 1 year ago

If you're not comfortable, secured, committed with your friends anymore, then , it shouldn't be a thinking to keep it for the notion of "nakakahinayang" regardless of how long friends you were already.

Specifically,when it comes to "money" , ' had several experience when I lend money and as a financial literate person, it's really important for me to consider my money in connection to any type of relationship.

As much as we wanted to enrich or prolonged the friendship, it gets really hard as times goes by and attitude changes, priority changes, and we meet new set of individuals na mas suitable enough (good for your growth).

Also, I learned the hard na mag cut off people na very "manipulate" or "narcissist"! Sinasabi ko talaga. They will make you feel really bad about yourself and instill you the notion na you can't find another like "me/us".
As soon as you sense na negative sila, let go of it! Escape!

To anyone whose having a hard time looking for a right group of friends, I hope and pray that you find the best one !

@whtvr_clover 1 year ago

Same kami ni Atty. Anselmo. Very picky sa mga tao. Para talaga sakin my time is very limited kaya mapili ako sa mga pinapakisamahan ko. We just sound mayabang o mataas ang tingin sa sarili but it's just who we are. ❤