So essentially you become their parent and we all know how teenagers treat their parents but they still expect to be sheltered and fed

oh my god... i have found like.... gold...

They are a curse😢

The borderline hands over control to A partner or A special friend. It stands to reason that the partner or special friend is replaceable once they've served their purpose. Some of these replacements are lost forever. Others wait in line for an opportunity to serve the borderline once again.

The only actual content anywhere on the internet thanks for your time Sam

In the recent time I get the feeling more and more, that my conscious is just some very highly elaborate program I (the subconscious) can adjust and nudge towards some goal.

I'm so thankful I found your videos. They help me to understand my inner workings so I can try to have relationships and friendships. I am so grateful for these resources. This video is so poignant to my life.

I'm borderline.  Diagnosed several years ago.   The Psychiatrist said not one word about it, although took the DBT classes.  I guess that should have clued me in.  
Having watched your videos and read your books is what brought clarity. It really helped me cope.   I am flabbergasted that the psychiatric dept. at my HMO said very,  very little.

I remember telling my brother my diagnosis.   Shoot,  if I had known what the  diagnosis really meant, I probably wouldn't have said a word.  I'm  close to my brother,  but  I feel people (even family)  look at you differently with THAT kind of information.  😊

Run for your life

The best Prof ever.  ❤❤❤

Is it still the case that the borderline seeks to individuate ? Like a compulsion to misbehave in the way they are used to almost to disprove the good object? The one i was with drove me crazy with her projecting her sense of shame onto me, the relatively stable part. Or is it the push pull compulsion ?

Well. That makes a lot of sense for my situation. Food for thought, huh. 😂🤦🏽‍♂️

Thank you for wonderful explanation

This speaks to me in terms of illustrating my behaviour. Much appreciated Sam

Really Really appreciate Professor Sam. I love your lectures and insight. Thank you

This explains my behaviour completely.  Very thought provoking. Thank you, professor 🙏

So a borderline needs a main partner and a friend? I have seen borderlines have a main person but go back to a friend as intimate when they are in dispute with the main person. Its a cycle for them basically having mutiple supplies, or a friend who is  a safe place for intimacy.

Thank you so much Dear Professor ❤

Thank you so much, dear Professor.. that is a very informative lecture and it makes me feel naked tho. Almost painfully revealing insight of yours makes me just wonder how much of my persona is the “disorder” and if it’s possible to break it down/separate it and call illness.. or if  all of me is just the disorder myself.

Excellent lessons. Dare I say perfect