Thanks for another insightful conversation with Quinlan,  Jefferson❤I really enjoyed it.

Relationship dynamics : Pursuers  and withdrawers. The former pour   their  energy into understanding and improving relationships by reading books, listening to podcasts  and watching videos etc. The latter do none of those, feel inadequate and criticised which cause them to withdraw and shut down.

Vulnerable is the super power to allow yourself to be fully known by other people. Without  that,  people don't know the real you.

If the other person can make you accept,  love yourself and motivates you to   strive to be a better  version of yourself, then, you've found the right partner.

Jefferson : The conversation that you are avoiding is the result that you are choosing.

If you are stuck in a long  marriage of disrespect, are you trading your respect for the familiarity of the marriage?

If you tolerate bad behaviour from another person,are you  choosing the desire to be chosen and the fear of being alone?

This! 6ish yrs trying no more disrespect im better uncomfortable

I was that woman!  I pulled my energy back; focused on my kids, my friendships, and my own hobbies and joys.  Turns out, my husband was having an affair and he ended up leaving to be with his affair partner.  It was devastating, especially for our children, but ended up being good for me.  I’d put money on that 18-year husband having something else going on outside of their marriage.

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Why is she not introduced? No mentions in the notes...